How to Achieve Humbleness in Your Heart?
Humbleness is the opposite of arrogance, and is an attitude and behavior that Allah and His Messenger (Peace and blessings be upon him)
have commanded us to have. It is also a great tool used to spread Islam to others.
The best way to achieve humbleness in the heart is contained in the Sunnah of the Messenger of Allah (Peace and blessings be upon him),
who prescribed many methods to teach his companions how to be humble. We ask Allah to help us all become humble and stay firm on that path. Following are some of the methods and ways of achieving humbleness:
Extending As-Salam (Saying As-Salamu Alaykum, Peace be Unto You)
Abdullah ibn 'Amer said that: a man asked the Messenger of Allah (Peace and blessings be upon him), "Which part of Islam is the best?
" He said, "To feed the food (to the poor), and to extend As Salam to those whom you know and whom you do not know."
[Al-Bukhari & Muslim]
Therefore, extending As-Salam to the old, young, rich, poor, noble, common folk, stranger and relative,
will open one's heart to achieve humbleness and will shut the door closed for arrogance and tyranny.
Concerning the permissibility of men greeting women with salaam and women greeting men, it is only permitted when there is no fear of Fitnah.
The Muslim woman who fears Allah must do her duty towards Allah, and not speak to non-Mahram men in ways that may raise their hopes or tempt them.
if she needs to go to a shop or a place where there are men, she should be modest and cover herself, and follow Islamic etiquette. If she speaks to men,
she should speak in an honorable manner in which there is no Fitnah and nothing dubious.
Muslims Should Hate That People Stand Up For Them
Mu'awiyah bin Abi Sufyan once entered a house where Abdullah ibn Az-Zubayr and Abdullah ibn 'Amer were sitting.
Abdullah ibn 'Amer stood up while Ibn Az-Zubayr did not. Mu'awiyah said:
"O ibn 'Amer! Sit down, for I heard the Messenger of Allah (Peace and blessings be upon him) say:
'Let those who like for people to stand up for them take their seats in the Fire.'"
[At-Tirmidthi]
This Hadith prohibits the Muslim to like that people stand up for him when he meets with or passes by them.
Furthermore, this Hadith teaches Muslims to enjoin righteousness and forbid evil, for Mu'awiyah criticized Abdullah ibn 'Amer for standing up for him.
Sitting Wherever One Finds Space
Jabir bin Samurah said:
"When we used to come to the Prophet (Peace and blessings be upon him), we would sit wherever we find space.
" Also, Ibn Umar narrated that the Prophet (Peace and blessings be upon him) said, what translated means,
"One of you must not remove a man from his place and sit in it. However,
(those already sitting should) make space and spread up (leaving adequate space for newcomers)."
[Al-Bukhari & Muslim]
Also, Ibn Umar used to avoid the place which a man vacated to make space for him.
Therefore, one should sit wherever he finds space, whether in the center of the audience or not.
Also, those who accept it that first-comers have the right to the best seats, because all Muslims whether rich or poor are equal,
will achieve humbleness in their hearts and deed, Allah willing.
Prohibiting The Muslim From Claiming Purity For Himself
Allah said, what translated means,
So ascribe not purity to yourselves. He knows best him who fears Allah and keeps his duty to Him.
[Noble Quran 53:32]
Mohammad ibn 'Amr ibn A'ta' said that he named his daughter Barrah (the righteous one).
However, Zaynab bint Abi Salamah said that the Messenger of Allah (Peace and blessings be upon him)
prohibited using this name when she was called "Barrah." He said: "Do not ascribe purity to yourselves.
Allah knows the righteous ones among you." The companions asked, "What should we call her?" He said, "Zaynab."
[Muslim]
Prohibiting Praising People in Their Presence
Abu Musa said:
"The Prophet (Peace and blessings be upon him) heard a man praising another man
and saying good words about him while he was present with them.
He said, 'You have destroyed or broke the back of the man!'"
[Al- Bukhari & Muslim]
Also, Abdur Rahman bin Abi Bakrah said:
that a man was once mentioned in the presence of the Messenger of Allah (Peace and blessings be upon him).
Another man said good words of praise about him. The Messenger of Allah (Peace and blessings be upon him) then said, what translated means:
"Woe unto you! You have beheaded your friend. If one of you has to praise, let him say, 'I think this and that' (about the praised man),
if he thinks that he deserves it, 'And his reckoning is with Allah,' and let him not ascribe purity (to anyone)."
[Al-Bukhari & Muslim]
Also, Ibrahim At-Taymi said that his father said:
"We were sitting in the presence of Umar when a man praised another man to his face.
Umar said, 'You 'Aqartahu (crippled him), may Allah do the same to you.
'" Furthermore, Abu Ma'mar said that a man stood up and praised one of the leaders,
then Al-Miqdad started throwing sand in his face, and saying,
"The Messenger of Allah (Peace and blessings be upon him) ordered us to throw sand in the faces of the praisers."
[Muslim, At-Tirmidthi, Abu Dawud & ibn Majah]
From these Hadiths and stories, we conclude that the Messenger of Allah (Peace and blessings be upon him)
prohibited praising others, especially while they can hear their praise.
This is because such praise may encourage the praised persons to overestimate themselves,
especially if they were people of position or wealth.
Also, such praise may lead the praised person to be arrogant, which may lead to laziness and a lower number of good deeds,
for one will depend on what he heard of praise and ignore acquiring more good deeds.
Humbleness is the opposite of arrogance, and is an attitude and behavior that Allah and His Messenger (Peace and blessings be upon him)
have commanded us to have. It is also a great tool used to spread Islam to others.
The best way to achieve humbleness in the heart is contained in the Sunnah of the Messenger of Allah (Peace and blessings be upon him),
who prescribed many methods to teach his companions how to be humble. We ask Allah to help us all become humble and stay firm on that path. Following are some of the methods and ways of achieving humbleness:
Extending As-Salam (Saying As-Salamu Alaykum, Peace be Unto You)
Abdullah ibn 'Amer said that: a man asked the Messenger of Allah (Peace and blessings be upon him), "Which part of Islam is the best?
" He said, "To feed the food (to the poor), and to extend As Salam to those whom you know and whom you do not know."
[Al-Bukhari & Muslim]
Therefore, extending As-Salam to the old, young, rich, poor, noble, common folk, stranger and relative,
will open one's heart to achieve humbleness and will shut the door closed for arrogance and tyranny.
Concerning the permissibility of men greeting women with salaam and women greeting men, it is only permitted when there is no fear of Fitnah.
The Muslim woman who fears Allah must do her duty towards Allah, and not speak to non-Mahram men in ways that may raise their hopes or tempt them.
if she needs to go to a shop or a place where there are men, she should be modest and cover herself, and follow Islamic etiquette. If she speaks to men,
she should speak in an honorable manner in which there is no Fitnah and nothing dubious.
Muslims Should Hate That People Stand Up For Them
Mu'awiyah bin Abi Sufyan once entered a house where Abdullah ibn Az-Zubayr and Abdullah ibn 'Amer were sitting.
Abdullah ibn 'Amer stood up while Ibn Az-Zubayr did not. Mu'awiyah said:
"O ibn 'Amer! Sit down, for I heard the Messenger of Allah (Peace and blessings be upon him) say:
'Let those who like for people to stand up for them take their seats in the Fire.'"
[At-Tirmidthi]
This Hadith prohibits the Muslim to like that people stand up for him when he meets with or passes by them.
Furthermore, this Hadith teaches Muslims to enjoin righteousness and forbid evil, for Mu'awiyah criticized Abdullah ibn 'Amer for standing up for him.
Sitting Wherever One Finds Space
Jabir bin Samurah said:
"When we used to come to the Prophet (Peace and blessings be upon him), we would sit wherever we find space.
" Also, Ibn Umar narrated that the Prophet (Peace and blessings be upon him) said, what translated means,
"One of you must not remove a man from his place and sit in it. However,
(those already sitting should) make space and spread up (leaving adequate space for newcomers)."
[Al-Bukhari & Muslim]
Also, Ibn Umar used to avoid the place which a man vacated to make space for him.
Therefore, one should sit wherever he finds space, whether in the center of the audience or not.
Also, those who accept it that first-comers have the right to the best seats, because all Muslims whether rich or poor are equal,
will achieve humbleness in their hearts and deed, Allah willing.
Prohibiting The Muslim From Claiming Purity For Himself
Allah said, what translated means,
So ascribe not purity to yourselves. He knows best him who fears Allah and keeps his duty to Him.
[Noble Quran 53:32]
Mohammad ibn 'Amr ibn A'ta' said that he named his daughter Barrah (the righteous one).
However, Zaynab bint Abi Salamah said that the Messenger of Allah (Peace and blessings be upon him)
prohibited using this name when she was called "Barrah." He said: "Do not ascribe purity to yourselves.
Allah knows the righteous ones among you." The companions asked, "What should we call her?" He said, "Zaynab."
[Muslim]
Prohibiting Praising People in Their Presence
Abu Musa said:
"The Prophet (Peace and blessings be upon him) heard a man praising another man
and saying good words about him while he was present with them.
He said, 'You have destroyed or broke the back of the man!'"
[Al- Bukhari & Muslim]
Also, Abdur Rahman bin Abi Bakrah said:
that a man was once mentioned in the presence of the Messenger of Allah (Peace and blessings be upon him).
Another man said good words of praise about him. The Messenger of Allah (Peace and blessings be upon him) then said, what translated means:
"Woe unto you! You have beheaded your friend. If one of you has to praise, let him say, 'I think this and that' (about the praised man),
if he thinks that he deserves it, 'And his reckoning is with Allah,' and let him not ascribe purity (to anyone)."
[Al-Bukhari & Muslim]
Also, Ibrahim At-Taymi said that his father said:
"We were sitting in the presence of Umar when a man praised another man to his face.
Umar said, 'You 'Aqartahu (crippled him), may Allah do the same to you.
'" Furthermore, Abu Ma'mar said that a man stood up and praised one of the leaders,
then Al-Miqdad started throwing sand in his face, and saying,
"The Messenger of Allah (Peace and blessings be upon him) ordered us to throw sand in the faces of the praisers."
[Muslim, At-Tirmidthi, Abu Dawud & ibn Majah]
From these Hadiths and stories, we conclude that the Messenger of Allah (Peace and blessings be upon him)
prohibited praising others, especially while they can hear their praise.
This is because such praise may encourage the praised persons to overestimate themselves,
especially if they were people of position or wealth.
Also, such praise may lead the praised person to be arrogant, which may lead to laziness and a lower number of good deeds,
for one will depend on what he heard of praise and ignore acquiring more good deeds.